START A NEW RELATIONSHIP CONFIDENTLY
YOUR 6 STEP GUIDE TO STARTING A NEW RELATIONSHIP CONFIDENTLY
A new relationship can be both exciting and nerve racking in equal measure, so how can you feel confident about who you are, what you look like and what you have to offer someone new?
Developing your sense of self-confidence in a relationship may be difficult if you have a low sense of self-esteem or have been hurt in previous relationships. However, a healthy sense of self-confidence will not only enhance your relationship but also improve your health, ability to deal with stress and overall emotional well-being. Improve your self-confidence and your confidence level in your relationship by following a few simple steps.
Believe in your own value. Having a sense of self-worth makes you more attractive to your partner. Do something to develop your sense of confidence. Whether you make a change to your physical appearance and get a new haircut, learn a new activity or take up a new sport, putting forth effort to boost your confidence will help build your confidence within your relationship.
See yourself as an individual. Don’t try to completely merge with your partner, which can destroy your sense of self. It’s best if you learn to be on your own and feel self-reliant before establishing a relationship with another person. Happiness and love really do start from within. How can you honestly expect someone to love you if you don’t love you – where their motivation and incentive?
Focus on the positive. Positive self-talk will help you build self-confidence. Focus on your partner’s positive qualities. Don’t criticize, offer compliments and reassurance and the chances are higher that you will receive the same.
Be aware of what constitutes a healthy relationship. Make sure your partner treats you with respect and courtesy. Don’t settle for constant criticism or negative behaviours. Finding your voice is essential to a successful and balanced relationship. Spending time on your own and feeling whole, without the need for someone to ‘complete you’ is the key stone to confidence both in and out of relationships.
Develop your own interests. Do things without your partner from time to time. Similarly, do fun and enjoyable activities with your partner. People who feel most lucky in their love relationships are often the ones who say they can do things both together and apart. Remember that you are looking for your best friend, rather than soul mate. The idea of soul mates can add too much pressure and lead you to placing the other person on a pedestal, something they can never live up to and only fall off.
Reveal something embarrassing about yourself to your partner. Sharing secrets or things you are ashamed about with your partner can be helpful in establishing a feeling of security and intimacy. Self-disclosure is fundamental to a healthy relationship and can enhance your confidence in each other. It’s about allowing yourself to venture into the scary world of being vulnerable. And until we are vulnerable we cannot really love or be loved.
6 steps to help you build self-confidence and help you start a new relationship with hope, happiness, love and realism!
Wishing you a happy and confident day.